Just because you do things a certain way and that way is right for you, doesn’t mean it’s right for someone else.
When someone tells you they had or are having a hard time, lecturing them is fruitless. Shaming them shows your own ignorance and lack of mercy.
When you give advice or admonishment, it should always be spoken in love. I don’t mean, “Hey, I said that ’cause I love you.” I mean using LOVING words. Uplifting, encouraging, building.
Even when someone makes a terrible mistake, they don’t deserve be robbed of their dignity or your respect.
Sometimes it’s better just to say, “Sorry you’re hurting.” or “Sorry that happened to you.” or “Is there anything I can do to help?” without the allusion to the word, “…dumba**” at the end.
Sometimes people act like they’re trying to help, but all they’re really trying to do is make you feel stupid or low.
You don’t ALWAYS have to say what you think. If you don’t know what to say or how to help, silence is a great option. You can ask God how to proceed. You can give a hug instead.
If your kind of helping is only hurting, its time to go back to the drawing board.
Remember to treat others the way you want to be treated.
One of the teachers of the law came and heard them debating. Noticing that Jesus had given them a good answer, he asked him, “Of all the commandments, which is the most important?”
“The most important one,” answered Jesus, “is this: ‘Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one. Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’ The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no commandment greater than these.” —Mark 12:28-31